♥♥ Same Boat @ Monday, January 25, 2010 ♥♥
They say that in order for you to understand a person, you must put yourself into their shoe and think what will you do if you experience it. It is easy to say that it should be done like this, like that, this one is wrong, that thing is improper to do, etc., but the truth is, you can only understand once emotion if you have gone through that same feeling. If you have experience what it is it like to be there. No matter how much you try to understand it, if you have not experience it, you are still clueless on how to deal with it. Only those who have experience the same feeling, the same emotion, though different circumstances can understand one another. People love to say, every people has the way of controlling their emotions, I have handle it perfectly, see, even I have been in pain, I CAN still be happy. As you were uttering those words, you should also realize that they are doing their OWN way. You should not dictate on what they should do because you pull it off the way you wanted it to be, so let them shake it off the way they want it to. I used to impose what should be the right thing to do to people who are asking my advice though I am still clueless on how it can be dealt before. After experiencing a life threatening *walang pakialamanan pare entry ko to! *, Mind boggling experience, I have realized that If a person asks me what to do if they currently experiencing it, I just kept quiet and just be there for them, ready to listen but not to comment for a moment. For no words can lessen what they feel but somebody’s presence would change somehow their mood.
For quite sometime, I have read and hear stories with the same emotion as I felt before. I am wondering why I feel sudden bond with these people. Some of them are my close friends; some were acquaintance, and others I have just read somewhere else. Maybe it is because what they feel right now is the feeling that I have dealt before. Honestly, it makes me feel weak and wanted to cry for I can remember how I struggle to get out of that situation. I can sense the pain they have right now, as if I am the one being in them. Different ways to shake the feeling off, unusual decisions being made just to pull off and stop the struggle, just to cut the pain short. I got angry at the same time, because for every pain they feel, there is somebody who caused it. Somebody who has their smile genuinely never thinking that there is someone faking their laugh just to make people see they are strong enough to handle situation. There is this sudden hatred against the person who caused their pain, but then again I have to think. There is always reasons why do shit happen. This shit will make people stronger and wiser.
My point is, do not compare on how you have solved your pain before and on how they are resolving their pain now. Just be there for them and be ready once they cry, listen when they talk, and extend your patience when they got gaga things on them. Those things were just normal if you have been there, as you also have done crazy things before. You cannot prevent what they want to do, but you can be there to make them realize somehow what is good for them that they should be done. It is just a matter of time and the cloud covering their eyes would vanish and make them see things clearly.Labels: Feelings, Personal, Thoughts
8:29 PM
VERY MUCH HAPPY!
